At some stage in your life, especially when you become a mother, you may feel like your days are “chaotic” – meaning you’ve got a lot to do in such a small space of time. Tasks get unfinished & get added to your never-ending to-do list. Sound familiar?
There is, however, a way to help or even solve your feeling of chaos & busyness & I’ve got 3 to share with you today.
1. Admit How You Feel
Every solution in life requires that we understand the exact problem we’re dealing with.
So it’s awful to feel like you don’t have control, waking up each day thinking about all the things you have to do & going to sleep each night thinking about how much you didn’t get done.
When you keep thinking you don’t have a solid grasp of your days, that there’s disorganisation or a lack of focus be sure to note if it’s creating stress, frustration & a strong sense of no accomplishment.
Once you admit your feelings it’ll be easier in’sha’Allah to look for answers & solutions.
2. Eliminate the Idea of Perfectionism
It’s common that many don’t deal with chaos around them because they’ve got an unrealistic idea of how things should be.
They assume getting their days in order requires a perfectionist personality, however wanting to embrace organisation & order is not a quest for perfection, in my opinion, it’s about having the mindset & systems in place to get things done with an element of bliss.
3. Tie Your Camel
It’s important that we understand that nothing is going to change if you don’t do anything.
Your days are not going to be less chaotic if you’re doing the same things over & over which are causing the disorder in the first place.
Now as Muslimahs we know that Allah swt is the Best of Planners, however in the spirit of “tying your camel” we also need to put our own plans & precautions in place (even if it’s all in Allah swt’s hands & we don’t know if it will happen or not). And in this context, it means getting organised to avoid the stresses & dramas that come with our demanding, chaotic days.
Hadith: Anas bin Malik narrated that a man said: “O Messenger of Allah! Shall I tie it and rely (upon Allah), or leave it loose and rely (upon Allah)?” He said: “Tie it and rely (upon Allah).” (Tirmidi)
Q. What are your thoughts on this? Let me know in the comments.
– Fatima xo